It’s a freezing Friday in London, and I just had an hour-long conversation with a Hungarian immigrant on a bench in Hyde Park.
I was sitting on a bench in front of the Albert Memorial in Hyde Park and reading Churchill’s biography (yes, because I’m such a geek), when I heard the very polite and pleasantly foreign sound of “Excuse me, could I sit down?” I nodded, and as the girl was sitting down and taking a bite of her hot-dog, she mumbled “I’m very frustrated.”
“Why are you frustrated?” I asked.
“When you arrive at Royal Albert Hall [the gorgeous round building across from Albert Memorial] very early before the show, they make you go to their restaurant upstairs and have a meal. But this restaurant is so expensive, and they make you go! I make good money, I’m not poor, but I wouldn’t go to such a restaurant! All they think about here is money! This is the worst city I have ever been to because they turn everything into money-making!”
The Hungarian girl whose name I never learned was beautiful in a very typical Eastern European way. She had red lipstick and white glitter on her eye-lashes. Her dark chestnut hair was diligently combed in a half-do. Her eyes were green. She was a belly-dancer. She lived and danced in several European cities, as well as in Maryland, USA. She was the apprentice to a belly-dancing teacher here in the UK. She now lived in London with her Hungarian fiancée.
“He loves the city. He works in banking, he goes out at 8, he works a lot, he travels a lot, he comes back late, on weekends he runs in the park – London is for him. I hate it. I hate the cold, I hate the rain. I miss sun and the beach,” she said. When she finished her hot-dog, she had a cigarette: “All artists smoke,” was her remark.
She said that everything in London is about money. People come here to work for a few years, earn a little fortune, and then go back home. People in Maryland were different; they were warmer. But then, it’s easier to get rich here than in the USA.
During the week, she rehearses, bikes, swims, and walks. On most weekends, she dances at weddings, bachelor parties, and other events. She earns well enough to pay some bills and have things of her own. She lives with her fiancée, so she doesn’t need to pay rent herself, but she cooks and cleans the house, which is her way of sharing the burden with him.
She was interested in my studies. She asked if I liked the university and Boston, and I said that I love being around so many interesting people from around the world. I suggested her to take a dancing class at one of the nearby universities: like Richmond or Imperial College; it had never occurred to her.
I shared how surprised I was to hear Bulgarian speech every single day here in London. She responded that there weren’t many Hungarians here.
When she asked me about the future, I told her that I was thinking of working in Europe or the States for a few years before eventually going back to Bulgaria. “Maybe you’ll change your mind. You are very young,” was her response.
“I feel that I still have things to do here. I want to master my belly dancing. I need probably two more years here. Then I might go back. Yes, I might go back when I turn 35.”
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This is not the first time I meet Eastern Europeans immigrants far away from home. Read my post “One Way Ticket to the States” about my encounter with an Illegal immigrant from Bulgaria who works as a pizza delivery boy in Boston.






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January 22, 2011 at 3:02 pm
Hungarian people UK
Hi, great post.
She (the girl who you talked to) would be surprised how many Hungarians live in London.
When we started our community website, we did a little research and we think there are over 50.000 Hungarian people live/work/study in the UK capital.
Not easy being a foreigner sometimes, especially if you don’t have good company. And sometimes that means someone from home… But the UK have so much to offer. A diverse blend of nationalities can bring so much fun into your life. Well, it depends what you are looking for when you move abroad… Everybody has different plans I guess.
January 22, 2011 at 9:04 pm
zikata
I agree – sometimes it is good to look for support from your fellow countrymen when you feel nostalgia. But I think that ultimately, the best think about living abroad is that you get immersed into a foreign culture, and it is a pity to reject that culture!
I told the Hungarian girl that I was thinking about signing up for Bulgarian folk-dancing lessons at our embassy here in London. She thought that was a great idea. Hopefully she will reach out to your community too!
January 23, 2011 at 6:23 am
katley
I think the folk dance lessons are a great idea
It’s a great way to make friends and get some exercise, and it’s lots of fun. Those endorphins kick in when I’m dancing horo
I’ve never been to London, but I’ve been told it’s rainy and foggy. That kind of weather would really get me down, I hate in in New England in November and December when there’s no sun for days at a time, I suffer from sun withdrawal.
September 28, 2011 at 12:00 am
joaquinbarroso
Eastern European girls have to be hands down the most beautiful girls in the world! I lived in Romania and Hungary for quite some time; now I’m back in Mexico where I was born but I do miss those places. I visited Bulgaria once and loved it!
By the way, how come she misses the beach? Hungary has no shore! I guess she meant beaches at the adriatic sea or maybe just those fake ones on Balaton lake near Budapest. Still it was fun to read her missing the beach
Keep up the good blogging and good luck now you are in Boston
September 28, 2011 at 2:50 am
zikata
Joaquin,
Hahaa you are making a great point about the Hungarian beaches
)) I think she meant that she misses warm weather, days with a lot of sunshine, and… other counties’ beaches
But who knows!
Thank you for the kind words, both about my blog and about Eastern European girls
January 21, 2012 at 10:41 pm
robertcsnk
I think she said about the Balaton lake beaches.
January 22, 2012 at 5:46 am
zikata
Thank you for that comment, you are probably right!
Balaton lake looks beautiful: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lake_Balaton